When I stand at the stove, rolling dough and flipping rotis, it looks like a simple routine. Just another task in a long list of things to do as a mother, a wife, a working woman. But if you pause long enough, you realise the roti is never just roti.

When I moved to Australia with my husband and our girls, I knew life would change, but I didn’t expect just how much. Suddenly, everything was on me, from cooking every meal, dropping and picking up kids from school, handling their activities, managing a full-time job to survive, and even staying involved in community events. All this is done without the family support we usually have back home. Back in North India, life moved at a different pace. We had moral support, domestic help, and the comfort of knowing someone always had our back a mother, siblings a neighbour, an elder. But here, in a new country, I’ve had to become my support system. And let’s be honest, as Asian women, many of us grow up in cultures where household responsibilities fall mostly on our shoulders. That hasn’t changed much even after moving here. The cultural expectation that a woman will manage everything still exists. However, it’s not easy and it’s not fair.  But I’ve also been lucky, behind this resilient woman is a man who has quietly and consistently carried his share of the weight handling the financial responsibilities, making sure we had a roof over our heads, and giving me the space to focus on our children, our home, and finding my voice in this new chapter. His strength has made my resilience possible.That’s why I started Roti, Routine, and Resilience. Because I know I’m not alone. There are so many women who are living the same story, balancing work, home, motherhood, and personal identity in silence. And I want to create a space where we can talk about it openly. Through this blog, I want to share my journey: the wins, the struggles, the burnout, and the little joys. I want to explore and exchange real-life strategies for managing it all with strength and self-love. Whether it’s a tip that helped me meal prep faster, a mental shift that saved my sanity, or a story that reminds us we’re not alone, this blog is for that. Because even if life feels overwhelming at times there is resilience in every routine. And behind every roti we roll, there’s a story waiting to be told.